Keys to Staying Focused on What Matters In Life

Life can bring about a variety of experiences. We are shaped and molded into who we are today by them. We leave our footprints in the sand and go about our lives unaware of the impact we have on each other and this Earth. Time passes and we look up and realize what is really important and what matters the most. Over time, I've come to learn more about myself. When my focus shifts to what is truly important to me, I recognize how beautiful growth can be if I let it.

When I sit down and think about the life I want for myself, I usually insert healthy in just about every goal I have. I can admit to holding on tightly to relationships, jobs, and situations that caused more trouble than they were really worth. I have done the whole fixing and fighting tango. It is exhausting. Everything is not meant to be fixed and that is a hard lesson to learn. That nudge of pain, sadness, rejection, and pure frustration is enough to light a fire under me to get out and go another route. Ugly transitions should not always be what compels us to move forward. They usually are though because we lose sight of what really matters to us.

I would like to think we all have some sort of internal clock within us. It allows us to sense when a season of change is in sight and when another is ending. When there is resistance to change, our symptoms are like rope burn. We experience pain. Then there is a healing process that takes place to get us to where we need to be. When we choose to let go, we may be holding our breath on the way but we eventually find peace in the season ahead. We reap the good fruit of going with our gut!

If there is a secret formula out there that will teach you how to live in the present while accomplishing goals, I have not found it. In fact, I haven't even looked for it if I am being honest. Winging it isn't an option for me either so I kind of stuck with the ol' work hard play hard mantra to avoid hitting every metaphorical stair along the way. Losing sight of what matters blindsides us and leaves us vulnerable. 

If you find yourself losing sight of what is truly important, don't worry. All is not lost. There are many things you can do to set yourself up for success. 

Create a vision board.
This is a board you can be really creative with. You write down your life dreams, add pictures, cutouts, you name it. It is for the purpose of keeping you motivated. Have fun with it! Think about what you value. This board should make you happy. If you find that your emotions hit a snag along the way, it is okay. All that means is a part of you requires a little more attention and healing. Don't let it be the reason you do not complete your board. Visualize yourself accomplishing everything on that board!

Consider Time.
Sometimes we all have to do what needs to be done for the time being. It is a place of temporary survival. When you look up 20 years later and you've made that temporary position long-term, that is what I consider wasted time especially if you had not planned on staying there. Make a list of manageable goals to achieve your dream. You can even confide in a friend to keep yourself accountable. Allow them to follow up with you every once in a while. Don't let time pass you by.

Speak life!
Do you ever feel crappy after complaining about something? I know I do. I think about the words I just released into the air and I cringe. When you feel those words about to spew out of your mouth, stop and recollect yourself. You will have a good day. You will get through that hard task. You will accomplish that goal. You will do well for yourself. You are successful. You are smart. You are capable! Breaking the habit of being negative will bring clarity to your perspective. 

Find balance. 
Disconnecting will help you find your center. Find time to clear your head. You can do this through prayer, meditation, silence. Shutting off social media for a time helps too. Let your people know that you will not be available during those times to minimize distraction. Not only will you gain insight on what you are processing but you increase the measure at which you are capable of helping someone else. 

Keep dreaming. 
"If your dreams don't scare you, they aren't big enough." Quoted by Ellen Johnson Sirleaf. Dream big and wild and free! You have to give up on your dreams to live a decent life said no one ever. It is never too late. Look at that vision board really good and ask yourself if your dream needs to be bigger. If the answer is yes, add some more goodness! The only impossibility is the hindrance you create in your own mind. 

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